Saturday, August 18, 2007
I'm like any mother with two children...busy! Having two small boys keeps me hopping and mentally tired. Sometimes, I think too much...I start wondering, Am I being a "good" Mom to each one of my sweet, precious boys?, Do I spend enough time with each one of them?, Do I give them the attention they need?, Does K-Man know that I still love him so much it hurts (though I have another adorable boy that makes my heart swell)?, Does Little Bit feel like he comes second (when K. demands my attention!)?, Am I devoting enough time to the spiritual and physical growth of each child, Am I being the Mom that each one deserves and needs?
With these thoughts comes much prayer! I desire to be the best Momma for my boys, but sometimes I am worn out or need Me time. I was told once that balance does not mean spending the same amount of time with each child everyday. Balance is giving each child (and your husband and self) the things that are NEEDED at that moment(there will be other moments that the pendullum will swing the other direction). For example, Little Bit may be teething and need a full day of holding and cuddling. While the next day K. is having a "Question Day" and needs me to give him full attention all morning answering his desperate questions! Perhaps the next day the boys are doing fine playing together and I can have Me time with a magazine. As long as you keep God as your focus and strive to be the best you can be for that day...you will find balance.
Last night myself, my adorable husband and the K-Man waited until Little Bit went to sleep and we played "Go Fish", and a "Fishing" board game. We had a blast! K. was thrilled with the attention. I realized it does not take much to make a child feel important...and balance is really not that hard to achieve. It's all how you perceive the balance in your life.