Saturday, August 18, 2007

Balance



I'm like any mother with two children...busy! Having two small boys keeps me hopping and mentally tired. Sometimes, I think too much...I start wondering, Am I being a "good" Mom to each one of my sweet, precious boys?, Do I spend enough time with each one of them?, Do I give them the attention they need?, Does K-Man know that I still love him so much it hurts (though I have another adorable boy that makes my heart swell)?, Does Little Bit feel like he comes second (when K. demands my attention!)?, Am I devoting enough time to the spiritual and physical growth of each child, Am I being the Mom that each one deserves and needs?

With these thoughts comes much prayer! I desire to be the best Momma for my boys, but sometimes I am worn out or need Me time. I was told once that balance does not mean spending the same amount of time with each child everyday. Balance is giving each child (and your husband and self) the things that are NEEDED at that moment(there will be other moments that the pendullum will swing the other direction). For example, Little Bit may be teething and need a full day of holding and cuddling. While the next day K. is having a "Question Day" and needs me to give him full attention all morning answering his desperate questions! Perhaps the next day the boys are doing fine playing together and I can have Me time with a magazine. As long as you keep God as your focus and strive to be the best you can be for that day...you will find balance.

Last night myself, my adorable husband and the K-Man waited until Little Bit went to sleep and we played "Go Fish", and a "Fishing" board game. We had a blast! K. was thrilled with the attention. I realized it does not take much to make a child feel important...and balance is really not that hard to achieve. It's all how you perceive the balance in your life.

8 comments:

Deanna said...

You are, always have been and always will be a WONDERFUL Momma!! Don't worry too much and never forget to enjoy those sweeties...the rest will come day by day.

Rochelleht said...

What a good reminder. That was a great post! It's so important to 'consciously' parent.

maria said...

Lacie--

I sooo much understand what you are going through. It is such a struggle to try to give each of the kid's attention when they need it, especially when they need it at the same time.
Don't doubt yourself, you are a wonderful mom!! You are such a wonderful momma, because God is the focus of your life. I know those two boys will grow up feeling loved, because you cared so much to achieve 'balance'. They are lucky!

Lynn said...

OH HOW FUN! Family nights are a great tradition to start. You are a very loving family and you don't have to worry about that. It takes team work to run a family and you are a great team. Love you guys!

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful post! Sorry I'm just getting back to reading your blog- it's been a busy few weeks! I'll have to tell Shane that yall live near Weatherford- he has a lot of family that lives there! (and that's fairly close to us.) I'm sure he'd love to see you both sometime! No idea how we can get in touch though b/c I'm sure not going to post my phone number on here! :) Suggestions?
~Whitney Lumpkins

Shaka said...

nice post. that's something i struggle with too. it's hard to feel like you give each kid the attention they deserve and need. but i do agree that it doesn't take much. that extra hug one day or a couple minutes to play a game like you did.

Tip Junkie said...

What a wonderful post. I really needed that. It's so true how our lives change so often as well as the needs of our children, honeys, and ourselves.

Anonymous said...

be careful not to let whitney around your husbands. she has no qualms with trying to have an affair with someone else's spouse.